Lulu Wang’s story of lying to her grandmother for her health (What You Don't Know) was interesting. They believed that keeping her grandmother’s diagnosis from her would actually keep her healthier than telling her that she had cancer. I understand why they did this. They care for their grandmother and want her to live the rest of her life without having to deal with any negativity. Lulu wasn’t okay with lying to her grandmother, but she knew it was important for her well-being.
I can agree with why Lulu’s family chose to keep this from her because I would want my grandmother to live her last few months as happy and peacefully as she could, as well. I know that it would be hard, not being able to properly say goodbye. Often, cancer treatment is invasive and can make people feel a lot sicker than they would without it. Lulu’s grandmother was also only given a few months, so medication may not have been an option at that point. They chose to pull off this elaborate scheme with a wedding celebration, so that everyone could come together and have their last times with Lulu’s grandmother. Lulu’s grandmother ended up living past her 3 month “time-frame”, and the family believes this is due to the fact that they gave her joy instead of worry. This makes sense to me because people say that stress does the most damage to a person. To be honest, this blog post is a bit difficult for me to write because I don’t feel like I have ever been in a situation where something was too hard to tell someone, or where I felt like I needed to lie to someone to make them feel better. I have always had relationships in my life where I can be open with the people in my family and we all talk amongst each other. We feel as though it is important to share our struggles, so we can all pray together and for one another. My family believes that prayer is truly the best medicine and God will do what he wants in any situation. Most of my family is in the church heavily and realize that we don’t have control over what is happening in most cases. I suppose I can understand why people may do either of these things in certain situations. I have been lied to in order to “protect my feelings”, but after I find out, I realize I would have rather known exactly what was going on. I tried to dig deep to think of something to relate myself to this story, but maybe my life has luckily been uneventful in that way.
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Sabatino
2/13/2018 09:43:48 am
Thanks for sharing this post. I appreciate how you provide insights in your family life and how you believe in being open. These comments intrigued me:
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Victoria Kuonen
2/13/2018 03:45:36 pm
I feel the same way about "being lied to protect feelings" and I'd rather know what was going on in the beginning
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